How to Strive to Have a Godly Marriage - Oneness


Marriage oneness brings blessings -

    -blessings of companionship - Malachi 2:14 - "Yet ye say, Wherefore? Because the LORD hath been witness between thee and the wife of thy youth, against whom thou hast dealt treacherously: yet is she thy companion, and the wife of thy covenant."

  • Blessings of encouragement - you should be your spouses number one encourager with daily praises
  • Blessings of intimacy
  • Blessings of protection - you should warn your spouse/each other of problems with the kids, or in the house, or sin, jobs, ect. And heed each others warnings
  • Blessings of caring for each other
  • Blessings of loving one another
  • Blessings of communication
  • Blessings of answered prayer

Oneness

Wednesday, July 20, 2016

10:25 PM

Genesis 2:18-24 - "And the LORD God said, It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him. And out of the ground the LORD God formed every beast of the field, and every fowl of the air; and brought them unto Adam to see what he would call them: and whatsoever Adam called every living creature, that was the name thereof. And Adam gave names to all cattle, and to the fowl of the air, and to every beast of the field; but for Adam there was not found an help meet for him. And the LORD God caused a deep sleep to fall upon Adam, and he slept: and he took one of his ribs, and closed up the flesh instead thereof; And the rib, which the LORD God had taken from man, made he a woman, and brought her unto the man. And Adam said, This is now bone of my bones, and flesh of my flesh: she shall be called Woman, because she was taken out of Man. Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh."

 

Learning to grow as husband and wife, and being one, as God sees us

Matthew 19:5-6 - "And said, For this cause shall a man leave father and mother, and shall cleave to his wife: and they twain shall be one flesh? Wherefore they are no more twain, but one flesh. What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder."

Mark 10:8 - "And they twain shall be one flesh: so then they are no more twain, but one flesh."

Ephesians 5:31 - "For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and shall be joined unto his wife, and they two shall be one flesh."

I Peter 3:7 - "Likewise, ye husbands, dwell with them according to knowledge, giving honour unto the wife, as unto the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life; that your prayers be not hindered."

The wife is the weaker vessel; she is frail, tender, loving, caring, affectionate, kind and more in touch with emotions, in which, men should strive to be more of the same.

 

Husbands need to wash themselves with the Word of God, reading it daily with their wives. God viewed the marriage as the key part of His creation.

Date nights are a good way to rejuvenate and get closer.

 

Genesis 2:15 - "And the LORD God took the man, and put him into the garden of Eden to dress it and to keep it."

The woman is the keeper of the home, while the man is the problem solver, and brings home the bacon.

I Timothy 5:8 - "Now she that is a widow indeed, and desolate, trusteth in God, and continueth in supplications and prayers night and day."

God and the husband run the house, mom is in charge while the husband is away.

If the husband and God aren't in control of the house satan will be, because she (the wife) is the weaker vessel.

The wife is the nurturer, she is her husbands supporter, his number one fan.

 

Any part of your life that damages oneness needs to be resolved or changed NOW.

Man was given specific responsibilities, and women were given specific responsibilities, but they are both different, but when they are one in their marriage they fit together perfectly.

 

Selfishness ruins marriage; you must put off 'self'; die to each other daily; if your not one, your not working together.

I Peter 3:7 - "Likewise, ye husbands, dwell with them according to knowledge, giving honour unto the wife, as unto the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life; that your prayers be not hindered."

If the husband isn't doing what God designed him to do in the marriage, his prayers could be hindered.

 

God has given you the marriage together; and expects you to do it together - fighting (for your marriage) together; crying out together; praying together, so that He may bless you. The inheritance is given to the marriage; when your marriage is on the solid foundation of Christ it will give your children security.

 

We are to be one.

 

Matthew 3:10 - "And now also the axe is laid unto the root of the trees: therefore every tree which bringeth not forth good fruit is hewn down, and cast into the fire."

There should be no secrets in a marriage, (outside of surprise parties, birthdays and anniversary's!)

Email, phones, social media, ect. Should always be open to each other at all times

 

Romans 8:17 - "And if children, then heirs; heirs of God, and joint-heirs with Christ; if so be that we suffer with him, that we may be also glorified together."

 

Marriage oneness brings blessings -

    -blessings of companionship - Malachi 2:14 - "Yet ye say, Wherefore? Because the LORD hath been witness between thee and the wife of thy youth, against whom thou hast dealt treacherously: yet is she thy companion, and the wife of thy covenant."

  • Blessings of encouragement - you should be your spouses number one encourager with daily praises
  • Blessings of intimacy
  • Blessings of protection - you should warn your spouse/each other of problems with the kids, or in the house, or sin, jobs, ect. And heed each others warnings
  • Blessings of caring for each other
  • Blessings of loving one another
  • Blessings of communication
  • Blessings of answered prayer

 

Enemies of marriage are selfishness and pride.

 

Five Love Languages

  1. Acts of service; serving one another
  2. Gifts; giving each other little gifts
  3. Quality time
  4. Physical touch
  5. Affirmation, meeting each others needs

 

So how can you be one with your spouse?

Grow together

Attend regular church service together

Study God's Word together

Pray together

Put God first in your life and marriage

Put off 'self' and pride daily

Die to God and your spouse daily

 

I John 1:7 - "But if we walk in the light, as he is in the light, we have fellowship one with another, and the blood of Jesus Christ his Son cleanseth us from all sin."

 

Matthew 16:24 - "Then said Jesus unto his disciples, If any man will come after me, let him deny himself, and take up his cross, and follow me."

Philippians 2:3 - "Fulfil ye my joy, that ye be likeminded, having the same love, being of one accord, of one mind."



 

The closer you and your spouse grow to God, the closer you will grow to each other. You have to die to self and die to your spouse, daily. You must grow together in oneness and have unity.

 

(Video portion of lesson)

"God's Way to Deal with Your Wrong Emotions"

Everyone is subject to wrong emotions, look at Moses in Numbers 20:8-11 - "Take the rod, and gather thou the assembly together, thou, and Aaron thy brother, and speak ye unto the rock before their eyes; and it shall give forth his water, and thou shalt bring forth to them water out of the rock: so thou shalt give the congregation and their beasts drink. And Moses took the rod from before the LORD, as he commanded him. And Moses and Aaron gathered the congregation together before the rock, and he said unto them, Hear now, ye rebels; must we fetch you water out of this rock? And Moses lifted up his hand, and with his rod he smote the rock twice: and the water came out abundantly, and the congregation drank, and their beasts also."

Moses was angry and didn't obey God; his anger and disobedience was a picture of mans anger.

Psalm 37:8 - "Cease from anger, and forsake wrath: fret not thyself in any wise to do evil."

Ephesians 4:31 - "Let all bitterness, and wrath, and anger, and clamour, and evil speaking, be put away from you, with all malice:"

James 1:20 - "For the wrath of man worketh not the righteousness of God."

 

Most of the time man displays anger is wrong and cannot be Biblically justified.

Emotions are so powerful we often have a tendency to follow them where ever they lead us.

A few examples of following emotions from the Bible include -

Judges 16:15 - "And she said unto him, How canst thou say, I love thee, when thine heart is not with me? thou hast mocked me these three times, and hast not told me wherein thy great strength lieth."

Genesis 34

Genesis 39

Your feelings can be your worse enemy

I Kings 18

Elijah followed his wrong emotions -

Most people do have wrong emotions from time to time

 

Primary Negative Emotions

MEN
WOMEN
Frustration
Anger
Genesis 3:17
Dictator
 
Desire to control husband
hard to submit
Genesis 3:16

 

God gave us emotions so we can feel love, peace, joy, trust and contentment from Him and our spouse.

Jenn

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