How to Strive to Have a Godly Marriage - Right Priorities

I Timothy 3:1-3 - This is a true saying, If a man desire the office of a bishop, he desireth a good work. A bishop then must be blameless, the husband of one wife, vigilant, sober, of good behaviour, given to hospitality, apt to teach; Not given to wine, no striker, not greedy of filthy lucre; but patient, not a brawler, not covetous This is our Biblical priority – to be the husband of one wife, or wife of one husband, to be sober, to behave properly, to be hospitable, ready to teach {and learn}, not a drunk, not abusive, not greedy, patient, not arguing, and not covetous. Is your home a Biblical priority?
Your work is your ministry, however, the wife is the husband’s top priority, and the husband is the wife’s first ministry. Who is your top priority?
So, what is the real stuff, the real relationships of life?
Marriage
Husband
Wife
Kids
Grandkids
if your relationship with God is right, all your other relationships will fall into place where they need to be in priority. When you’re walking with God, you are a better husband, father, wife and mother.
Usually when a man puts God first, his (Christian)wife will be OK with being second.
So, this is the relationship order, how God wants it to be -
1. God
2. Wife (Husband)
3. Kids
Your ministry and work come after your relationships.
I Timothy 3:4-5 - One that ruleth well his own house, having his children in subjection with all gravity; (For if a man know not how to rule his own house, how shall he take care of the church of God?)
If you know how to rule over your own house you won’t have problems ruling over other things.
Matthew 6:33 - But seek ye first the kingdom of God, and his righteousness; and all these things shall be added unto you.
Love God first and foremost – everything you have is a gift from Him
Men, love your wives as Christ loves the church; wives, be your husband’s biggest cheer-leader, stand for him and with him, encourage one another. When you choose the right priorities, everything and everyone will line up properly.
When we are children, our first priorities were to our parents, then our siblings, grandparents, cousins, and the list goes on. As we grow into adults and get married, the priorities change; our first priority is then our spouse, then when children come along, to them, then our parents and in-laws and so forth.
Even after our children become parents, our priorities don’t change though, it is still our spouse, then our children, then our grandchildren. Now, when the grandparents don’t respect the rules of the parents it causes strife between the children and parents and between the parents and grandparents, and everything is thrown out of its proper order.
I Timothy 3:4 - One that ruleth well his own house, having his children in subjection with all gravity;
I Thessalonians 5:12 - And we beseech you, brethren, to know them which labour among you, and are over you in the Lord, and admonish you;
Parents are given the authority by God to raise their children; God blessed those parents with the children, not the government or other family members. The parents -
Ephesians 5:25 - Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it;
Christ gave Himself for the church; what are you willing to do husbands, to do or to give up so your wife will know she is your top priority?
Do you know her favorite food?
Do you know her favorite color?
Do you know her favorite hobby?
The same goes with your children and grandchildren, what are you willing to lay aside so your children and grandchildren know they are a priority to you? Your family is your ministry and God’s work for your life.
It hurts when someone makes a promise to you and then breaks it – always, always make sure you keep your promises to your spouse and your children. If you aren’t 100% sure you are going to be able to keep a promise, then don’t promise it, it does so much damage to your relationships when you continually break promises; it causes bitterness, anger, distrust, and ultimately can destroy relationships.
I Peter 3:7 - Likewise, ye husbands, dwell with them according to knowledge, giving honour unto the wife, as unto the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life; that your prayers be not hindered.
Make your relationship with your wife {spouse} top priority, second only to God, it takes work, and it is a life-long work, but you will be rewarded with a truly happy, Godly marriage and spouse who honors you and respects you and loves you. Husbands, treat your wives like the weaker vessel, she is tender and frail, treat her with great care.
Do you know Jesus Christ as your Lord and Savior? If you do, are the rest of your relationships lining up right? Husbands, do you know what your priorities are, and are they in the right order? Wives, do you know what your priorities are, and are they in the right order?
Jenn