Reverence

Ephesians 5:33 - Nevertheless let every one of you in particular so love his wife even as himself; and the wife see that she reverence her husband.

If you want to - SAVE, BUILD UP, STRENGTHEN, your marriage, submit, or reverence, your husband.

Ephesians 5:25 - Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it; - husbands are COMMANDED to love their wives {love, give self up for her, die to her daily} like Christ loved the church {He died for the church}.

Ephesians 5:22 - Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord. Wives are COMMANDED to submit to their own husbands as they submit to the Lord.

The wife is not inferior to the husband, her job or role, is different then his.  It is the wife's job, or role, to submit to and reverence her husband, even if he isn't doing his job or role and submitting to the Lord and being an active leader in the house.

Using an airplane as an example - God is the CEO, the husband is the pilot and the co-pilot. When everyone is doing their job, she has access to the same controls he does, however she also has a whole different set of her own controls.

If she steps away from her controls to take over his controls, the plan will not fly right.

It takes practice reverencing and submitting to your husband; doing these is opposite of what the world says and how most of us have been brought up and sometimes it's not easy putting away the ideas and training we received growing up; however, if you want to save, build up or strengthen your marriage, you must reverence and submit to your husband.

When the wife bumps the husband out of his God-given position -

1. It's NOT Scriptural
2. Her responsibilities are forgotten, and
3. The husband and his needs/desires are pushed to the back burner

It is the wives responsibility to submit to, reverence and encourage her husband, you are his HELP-MEET

Jesus gave each of us our marriage jobs as husband and wife. When the wife submits to, and reverences her husband it will -

1. Motivate him
2. Encourage him
3. Lift him up
4. Draw him closer to her

Reverence is an illustration of being unselfish, and showing respect and honor to your husband; all the time, not only in times he deserves it, but all the time {we didn't/don't deserve the grace and mercy shed upon us at Calvary, but because He loves us, Christ still died for each of us and willingly extends that grace and mercy to each of us}, and the Lord will bless you. Wives should praise and encourage her husband, and even be fearful to not praise and encourage him.

Proverbs 7:27 - Her house is the way to hell, going down to the chambers of death

Proverbs 7:21 - With her much fair speech she caused him to yield, with the flattering of her lips she forced him.

Is your speech lifting your husband up or causing him to fall?

Men want to be reverenced and honored, and if you will reverence and submit to him it will keep his attention on you, and when you give him daily praise his heart will be drawn to you.

Submission and reverence are not -

Correcting husband in front of others

Complaining to husband

Criticizing the husband

Nagging the husband

Encourage your husbands decision making; ask him what he would like you to do for him; don't focus on the negative things, praise him for his positives, don't nag him for what he hasn't done.

Proverbs 27:17 - Iron sharpeneth iron; so a man sharpeneth the countenance of his friend.

Build your husbands up, when you nag him, you are causing him to be angry, driving him crazy and destroying his spirit.

Here are some ways to reverence your husband -

Create a peaceful home atmosphere

Be loyal to him

Praise him for his skills

Watch him

Listen to him

Love him

Admire him

Respect him

Teach the children to respect him

Show the children who the Bible says he is

Build him up

Praise him

Remember the good things he's done

Proverbs 27:21 - As the fining pot for silver, and the furnace for gold; so is a man to his praise.

Submit and give reverence to your husband and God will bless you

 

Jenn