The Excellent Wife - A Wife's Understanding of Relationships

 

What did Jesus pray and ask the Father regarding future believers oneness with God? That we would be one with God like Christ and God are one in each other

John 17:21

Jesus also prayed that believers would have perfect and complete unity with each other; so that we would be one just as Christ and the Father are one, that the world would know that God sent Jesus and that He calls them, and that we would be set a part - the world will see Christ in us

Echad is the Hebrew word for 'one' - God makes, and sees, the husband and wife as one, no longer two

The Trinity is one, the Lord is one

The Trinity is the model relationship for believers to follow.

 

Characteristics of the Trinity	Characteristics of Fallen Man
Tender, compassionate and merciful	Not gentle, unmerciful, and cruel
Open and transparent	Closed, private, and self protective
Goodness towards the other shown by glorifying the other	Malice towards the other shown in tearing the other down to build up self
Love - sacrificial actions for the other	Self seeking - actions for self
Perfect communication with each other	Hurt each other by not communicating Biblically
Honest and truthful commitment to a righteous standard	Deceitful, lying, and committed to self
Perfect knowledge and understanding of each other	Limited knowledge and revelation of each other
Reliable and faithful in their relationship	Unreliable, unfaithful and lacking in trust due to the conditional basis of their relationship ("If you will, then I will…)
When working on a task, there is order, purpose, and voluntary subordination of the Son and Spirit to the Father (No power play over 'my rights')	Likely to manipulate with anger, tears, threats to have own way (May desperately cling to 'my way')

 

The Trinity is the perfect example of a perfect relationship, we should strive to be like the Trinity in our relationship

 

Questions you should stop asking yourself, and questions you should start asking yourself -

Stop Asking	Start Asking
What will it do for me	How can we glorify God
What will I get out of it	How can we walk in a pleasing manner with God
How will it meet my needs

 

We are no longer to live for self, but for Christ who died and rose again on my behalf

 

We should communicate in love, sharing thoughts, present and future desires, aspirations, goals, struggles, and spiritual insights, being open, honest and transparent with one another.

 

Memory Verse -

But seek ye first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things shall be added unto you - Matthew 6:33

 

Scripture Writing for this Chapter

That they all may be one; as thou, Father, art in me, and I in thee, that they also may be one in us: that the world may believe that thou hast sent me. - John 17:21

 

And the glory which thou gavest me I have given them; that they may be one, even as we are one: I in them, and thou in me, that they may be made perfect in one; and that the world may know that thou hast sent me, and hast loved them, as thou hast loved me. - John 17:22-23

 

Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh. - Genesis 2:24

 

Hear, O Israel: The LORD our God is one LORD: - Deuteronomy 6:4

 

Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body. - Ephesians 5:22-23

 

Wherefore he is able also to save them to the uttermost that come unto God by him, seeing he ever liveth to make intercession for them. - Hebrews 7:25

 

Wherefore we labour, that, whether present or absent, we may be accepted of him. - II Corinthians 5:9

 

For to me to live is Christ, and to die is gain. - Philippians 1:21

 

But hast lifted up thyself against the Lord of heaven; and they have brought the vessels of his house before thee, and thou, and thy lords, thy wives, and thy concubines, have drunk wine in them; and thou hast praised the gods of silver, and gold, of brass, iron, wood, and stone, which see not, nor hear, nor know: and the God in whose hand thy breath is, and whose are all thy ways, hast thou not glorified: - Daniel 5:23

 

For whom he did foreknow, he also did predestinate to be conformed to the image of his Son, that he might be the firstborn among many brethren.- Romans 8:29

 

I beseech you therefore, brethren, by the mercies of God, that ye present your bodies a living sacrifice, holy, acceptable unto God, which is your reasonable service. And be not conformed to this world: but be ye transformed by the renewing of your mind, that ye may prove what is that good, and acceptable, and perfect, will of God. - Romans 12:1-2

 

And that he died for all, that they which live should not henceforth live unto themselves, but unto him which died for them, and rose again. - II Corinthians 5:15

 

Doth not behave itself unseemly, seeketh not her own, is not easily provoked, thinketh no evil; - I Corinthians 13:5

 

Fulfil ye my joy, that ye be likeminded, having the same love, being of one accord, of one mind. Let nothing be done through strife or vainglory; but in lowliness of mind let each esteem other better than themselves. - Philippians 2:2-3

 

So likewise ye, when ye shall have done all those things which are commanded you, say, We are unprofitable servants: we have done that which was our duty to do. - Luke 17:10

 

For the word of God is quick, and powerful, and sharper than any twoedged sword, piercing even to the dividing asunder of soul and spirit, and of the joints and marrow, and is a discerner of the thoughts and intents of the heart. - Hebrews 4:12

 

A virtuous woman is a crown to her husband: but she that maketh ashamed is as rottenness in his bones. - Proverbs 12:4

 

Jenn