How to Strive to Have a Godly Marriage - Misunderstandings

Have you ever been in a situation where you misunderstood someone? I Corinthians 1:8-22 - Who shall also confirm you unto the end, that ye may be blameless in the day of our Lord Jesus Christ. God is faithful, by whom ye were called unto the fellowship of his Son Jesus Christ our Lord. Now I beseech you, brethren, by the name of our Lord Jesus Christ, that ye all speak the same thing, and that there be no divisions among you; but that ye be perfectly joined together in the same mind and in the same judgment. For it hath been declared unto me of you, my brethren, by them which are of the house of Chloe, that there are contentions among you. Now this I say, that every one of you saith, I am of Paul; and I of Apollos; and I of Cephas; and I of Christ. Is Christ divided? was Paul crucified for you? or were ye baptized in the name of Paul? I thank God that I baptized none of you, but Crispus and Gaius; Lest any should say that I had baptized in mine own name. And I baptized also the household of Stephanas: besides, I know not whether I baptized any other. For Christ sent me not to baptize, but to preach the gospel: not with wisdom of words, lest the cross of Christ should be made of none effect. For the preaching of the cross is to them that perish foolishness; but unto us which are saved it is the power of God. For it is written, I will destroy the wisdom of the wise, and will bring to nothing the understanding of the prudent. Where is the wise? where is the scribe? where is the disputer of this world? hath not God made foolish the wisdom of this world? For after that in the wisdom of God the world by wisdom knew not God, it pleased God by the foolishness of preaching to save them that believe. For the Jews require a sign, and the Greeks seek after wisdom:
One little misunderstanding can change your whole life. Look at Cain and Able. You could say Cain misunderstood what kind of sacrifice he was to bring before God; he got bitter when God refused his offering. Misunderstandings can cause bitterness. Bitterness can be very dangerous when it comes into our lives.
Some consequences of misunderstandings -
bitterness, false accusations, ruined reputations, war
So, how can you avoid misunderstandings?
1. Ask questions, a lot of questions, and don’t assume; be diligent in getting the truth. Deuteronomy 13:12.14 - If thou shalt hear say in one of thy cities, which the LORD thy God hath given thee to dwell there, saying, Then shalt thou enquire, and make search, and ask diligently; and, behold, if it be truth, and the thing certain, that such abomination is wrought among you;
If you misunderstood and someone was hurt because of it, you will need to go and apologize, and repent as soon as possible, and seek the other person’s forgiveness before bitterness sets in.
2. It is possible to misunderstand what you see
3. Believe what your Christian brothers and sisters tell you and that they are honest. Your innocent until proven guilty.
Numbers 35:30 - Whoso killeth any person, the murderer shall be put to death by the mouth of witnesses: but one witness shall not testify against any person to cause him to die.
Deuteronomy 17:6 - At the mouth of two witnesses, or three witnesses, shall he that is worthy of death be put to death; but at the mouth of one witness he shall not be put to death.
Deuteronomy 19:15 - One witness shall not rise up against a man for any iniquity, or for any sin, in any sin that he sinneth: at the mouth of two witnesses, or at the mouth of three witnesses, shall the matter be established.
II Corinthians 1:22 - Who hath also sealed us, and given the earnest of the Spirit in our hearts. Ask questions, due diligence, and know the whole story. Know the truth and the truth will set you free.
Matthew 7:22 - Many will say to me in that day, Lord, Lord, have we not prophesied in thy name? and in thy name have cast out devils? and in thy name done many wonderful works?
Many people misunderstand salvation. Many people think they are going to heaven because they are ‘good’. Know the truth, seek God, and He will tell you the truth.
Ask questions, when you misunderstand and don’t correct it, it can cause you to be bitter and destroy all your relationships and your life.


  1. I have been recently read SOOO many posts, about misunderstanding, and communication in marriage, maybe God is telling me something!!And I just attended an ART of marriage class, which said the same thing. Thanks for sharing these points.
    (I tried to comment on your newest post on Grace and Truth, but it did not allow me to post anything!) -Sue


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